On Petitions
Or, How do I get a Mistress to accept my petition?
by
Ms Margo
I receive constant petitions to
take on submissives for training. Most of the petitions
that I receive are sorry indeed. Would you really like to
write a petition that will be accepted? Good.
This will be lesson one.
There are many, many more submissive men than there are
Dominant women. I receive 3-5 letters a week from men
wanting to be my submissive. What is it about you that
would make me want to spend time writing to you, talking to
you, or being with you? You have to impress a Dominant with
what it is that you are and what it is that you want the
very first time that you write to her. "The scene" has so
many aspects that no two people are guaranteed to be a good
match. A good Dominant knows that. She won't waste time on
someone who doesn't appear to be suitable to her. You
should, at the very least, have thoroughly read her
registry to see what she likes and what she doesn't. When
you write to a Dominant, the letter should be well thought
out and reasonably lengthily. I know one Dominant woman who
sends out a 20 page questionnaire to prospective
submissives, but a half page to a page should be enough.
Write a letter, set it aside. Come back to it the next day
and re-read it. Think about how you would respond if you
received that letter. Be careful about its writing.
Spelling and grammar *do* count. Be respectful in your
letter. I teach my submissives to write lower case "i" and
uppercase "You" - as in, "Mistress, i would very much like
to be helpful to You." You don't have to do this, but it's
a nice touch. Always remember to capitalize their name and
title. Try to find out what title a Dominant prefers - ask
around - if in doubt use Ms. or Mistress.
Tell a Dominant as much about yourself as you can. Not that
you have blond hair and green eyes, but what your
experiences have been and what you would like to
experience. As a novice, you may not have had many
experiences. So tell the Dominant what inhabits your
fantasies. If you dream of being securely bound with silk
stockings and beaten with a feather duster, say so. If you
long to be dressed as a woman and taken shopping at the
K-Mart, let her know. If when you were 7 you loved to be
tied up playing Cowboys and Indians, then tell the story.
Telling someone that you are a "submissive" tells them
nothing. You wouldn't be writing to a Dominant woman if you
weren't. Think for a moment about what appeals to you - a
favorite story, a beloved picture, a treasured fantasy. You
heart will lead you in the direction that you would like to
explore. Don't worry about what it is that draws you. You
are *never* the first person to have been interested in a
particular kink. Over time you will want to explore new
things. Some things which originally appealed to you may
not hold a fascination for you in the future. A good
Dominant will be open and accepting; she will not tell you
that you're "sick." She also will keep your correspondence
private.
Let a Dominant know what you can do for them. Dominant
women are not a public utility. You want them to spend
their time and effort on you. What can you do for them in
return? Your letter should be very clear about the sorts of
things that you can do for them. Are you good dinner
company? Do you do carpentry? Can you baby-sit her cat? Are
you the world's best boot polisher? Are you a leather
fetishist who would love to Lexol all her toys? The
possibilities are endless. Pick a few things that you're
good at *and* that you are willing to do, and put that in
your letter. Be sure that you are really willing to it. I
have a friend who says, "They always say 'Oh Mistress, I'll
do anything for you' until I tell them to clean the
catbox."
And lastly, have some discretion. If you pledge your
eternal slavery to someone that you have never met, or even
chatted with on-line, how would you expect her to react?
Let her know why it is that you are writing to *her*: you
heard good things about her, you liked her registry, you
were impressed with a post she wrote, you saw her at an
event and have dreamed of her ever since. Don't try the
shotgun approach - writing to every Dominant female in the
Western world. Many of the Mistress on-line are friends,
and someone who petitions everything that moves will soon
get a bad reputation. Don't waste your time, and the
Dominant's, by writing to someone who isn't into what you
are. If she's not into spanking and it's your number one
turn-on, then neither of you will get what you want out of
the relationship. Also, be clear about your expectations of
sex. If you want your scenes to include orgasm, or you're
looking to give sexual service, say so. The same holds true
if you are not willing to give sexual service, or are not
expecting it. Be as honest as you can be. If you have a
wife or girlfriend and need to keep your activities
private, that's important for your potential Mistress to
know.
Lastly, take your "No, thank you"s gracefully. There are a
lot of reasons why a Dominant might decline your offer.
Remember that she might be looking for someone in the
future, or may know another Dominant who is looking for
someone, and you would like to be that someone. If you're
feeling brave you might politely ask why she said no, so
you can write even better petitions in the future. Keep
trying, and refining your skills every time you do try.
Eventually, you *will* succeed!
Ver